Sometimes we all suffer from sexual
boredom, and many of us have less sex in a committed relationship than we
did before we settled down to monogamy. But why? What stops us having sex
in our relationships, the place where you'd expect it to be easiest to
actually have sex whenever we want it?
just how do you stay faithful to one partner for the whole of your life?
How To Stay Faithful To
Your Long Term Partner Forever
- And Still Have Really Great Sex!
Without a doubt you'll have met couples deeply in love with each other,
barely able to stop touching each other or kissing in the most public
You probably even felt that way yourself once! And so you'll probably
also know how sexual attraction begins to wane after a few months, years,
or even decades, of being together with the same person.
True, not all couples lose their sexual desire for each other as time
goes by, but most of us find things cool off from the early passion of a
relationship ... we tend to blame stress, the demands of children, work
requirements, tiredness ... and, yes, just about anything else that may be
occurring in our lives. If sex is a once-a-month-event -- or even
something that never happens at all -- these are the things we usually
But....what would you say if I told you that the real reason you're
having less sex is that you've turned yourself off?
After all, you can turn yourself on.....so why wouldn't you turn
yourself off? It may seem like a revolutionary idea, but the great news is
that if you turned yourself off, you can turn yourself on again just as
easily. I'm going to show you exactly how to do that.
But before we get there, we need to acknowledge that this drop in
sexual desire is usually regarded as normal -- as something to be
There's a widespread belief that couples in a long-term relationship
inevitably experience a decline in sexual desire and a growing lack of
interest in each other, a reduction in how often they have sex, and
perhaps also a decline in the level of sexual pleasure and excitement they
get when they're making love.
Well, believe it or not, there is in fact a biological change that
explains why people lose some of their sexual attraction and desire after
a few years of being together. It's to do with hormones in the brain.
In the early days of a relationship, the hormones produced by the brain
generate a feeling of arousal, sexual excitement, and euphoria.
That's one of the reasons why new couples can't even stop thinking
about each other. But after a while these hormones decrease, and that's
the point at which we all have to start working on the relationship. The
problem is, most of us don't know how to.
Happily, it's actually very easy to keep the passion alive in a
Forget the biology of hormonal changes in the brain, forget the
cultural beliefs about getting bored with our partners after we've been
with them a while, and above all forget the idea that you're destined to
lose your sexual desire and libido.
Not a single one of these beliefs is true. You can have the greatest
sex you've ever had in a long-term relationship, even after decades
And if you don't believe that statement now, then you will when you've
read this website and found out how you can enjoy a long-term monogamous
relationship that includes the greatest sex you've ever had.
To get you started, here are some basic tips to keep your long-term
relationship full of passion, excitement, and hot, hot sex.
Ring the changes
The way to deal with this is to just simply change your patterns: if
you have sex in the morning, make love in the afternoon; if you have your
foreplay in the bedroom, move it to the sitting room.
Try having sex out of doors or in every room in the house (yes, every
room in the house!). Such changes are simple but they can make a huge
difference by introducing an element of excitement and novelty.
The same is true, by the way, of toys and clothes and role-play. You
can get more great relationship
Do you believe that the emotionally closest couples are the ones who
stay hang on each other's arms all the time, who are never apart?
If so, it might surprise you to learn that the most successful
relationships are the ones where the couple maintain a high level of
independence -- they have their own interests, their own friends, and
their own activities.
That's not to say that a successful relationship is built on abandoning
your partner! Far from it: what it means is that if you have a rich and
satisfying life outside the home, you will have an even more rich and
satisfying life inside your bedroom with your partner: each time you meet
them there, you will see them with fresh eyes.
Prepare to work at sex
But don't get the wrong idea about what that means. The fact is, you
just have to put a bit of effort into meeting your partner's needs, as
well as expressing your own needs.
And simple though this is, doing so will make a huge difference to the
level of sexual excitement and emotional satisfaction you feel.
After all, good sex is based on intimacy (where intimacy means
understanding your partner and feeling close to them).
And intimacy is one of the simplest things in the world to build up --
you can build intimacy just by talking, by expressing your innermost
thoughts, feelings and desires. Yes, it's as simple as that.
Most people feel insecure if they think their sexual relationship, or
their emotional relationship, is threatened. Well, the truth is this
If you were brought together by shared values and interests in the
first place, and you once found each other physically exciting and
sexually desirable, then it's very likely that you have a sound basis for
your relationship to continue.
If you've lost your way, you simply need a new route map -- and that's
what this website will provide.
By the way, it's unhelpful to believe there are rules about how sex
should work for a couple, or how often you should be making love:
comparing yourself against what you think the rest of the world is a route
But working out what you want to do with your partner, and what he or
she wants to do with you can be much more fun!
This is particularly true where one member of the couple has a
different level of sexual desire to the other (or even just different
expectations about sex). In cases like this, one partner may convey subtle
(or not so subtle) rejections or discouragement to the other.
For example, a man may want more sex than his partner, but because they
are not communicating effectively, she may repeatedly discourage him.
It's not hard to see how this might lead to a decline in sexual
activity. But again, it's so easy to put it right, and to find a way for
both members of the couple to get their sexual and emotional needs fully
satisfied in a loving relationship -- no matter how long-term it is.
Let us guide you here: we explain in simple, straightforward steps
everything that you need to know to keep the fires of passion burning and
your relationships simmering for the long term!
We've already mentioned the need for intimacy to sustain a
relationship. But there's more to it than that: in the early days of a
relationship, the excitement of being with your partner is enough to keep
you coming back for more.
When you've been together for a few months or even years, your partner
may be more attracted by deeper qualities: your honesty, your values, your
loyalty, your sensitivity, your confidence ... whatever they partner feel
is attractive and important.
These are the qualities you can share to best advantage, the qualities
that will make your relationship blossom again.
We explain exactly what men and women want in a long-term relationship
on this website, so that you can understand exactly what your partner is
looking for, how you can provide it without giving yourself away, and
exactly how you can get what you need from them in return .
Date Your Spouse or Partner
Couples in good relationships always show each other their true
feelings. And, surprisingly enough, this might even mean showing your
partner your fear, resentment and anger.
When all's said and done, the best route to intimacy is complete
honesty and openness with your partner. By expressing your feelings and
responses in this way, you show them respect and increase intimacy.
You can also demonstrate how much you enjoy your partner by making an
effort to show them how much you love or respect them... and that doesn't
need to be difficult: you can do it with romance.
A loving weekend away, a special day, little treats for each other,
small romantic acts that show each other how much you're thinking about
one another, take little time and little effort.
We have hundreds of these ideas on this website designed to generate
intimacy, love, and ultimately sexual desire for each other.
Respect Each Other
This could include things as simple as ensuring that you maintain a
good body shape and level of fitness. That you don't allow your body to go
to flab, and, if you are a man, that you keep
working out at the gym! The
Adonis golden ratio shows you how to do this, as well as keeping to a
good diet and high
level of fitness.
Show Each Other (And Other People) Your Love for Each Other
One of the things we don't do in this society is to honor our
So, we tend to shy away from public demonstrations of how we feel for
each other: something as simple as holding hands in public, or kissing in
the street, or smiling at each other in a way that hints at the sexual
pleasures we share.
All of these things and more clearly demonstrate how you feel about
your partner; and such shows of affection will reinforce your desire for
each other. If you think this sounds too simple, well, believe us, it
isn't - and we'll prove it to you on this website!
And because it's never too soon to start, no matter where you are at
the moment. Now is the time to start rekindling romance.
Take some action and love will soon return, with sex hard on its heels!
If you don't know how to start, we have many suggestions about how you can
rekindle love and romance in a stale long-term relationship, helping you
celebrate your relationship as a couple.
Love One Another
On of the biggest problems that long-term couples can have is the
thought or reality of infidelity. Just how are we supposed to stay
faithful in a long term relationship?
There are others who seem more attractive to our own eyes or perhaps
our partner's; we know sex can decline; why would one or even both
partners not look outside the relationship for sex, love, intimacy or
Yes, this does happen, it is true. But you know what? The only reason
for it is that two people don't know how to meet each other's needs within
a long-term, committed, monogamous relationship.
Sex can be just as intense, satisfying, and frequent in a long-term
relationship as outside it.
In fact, a sense of attraction to somebody
outside the relationship, no matter what it's based on, is something you
don't even need to think about when your emotional and sexual needs are
being met in your relationship. Why would you ever go outside it?
If you don't believe that you can have great sex in a long-term
relationship you need to read this website right now! Before you do
anything else, in fact!
We'll prove to you that sex in a long-term relationship, with conscious
choice and commitment to that relationship, can be better than any sex
you'll ever have outside it. Period.
Sex and Romance
So what it comes down is this: sex, intimacy and love, supported by
romance and mutual respect are the core values that keep a relationship
together. If you've lost them, you can get them back - and pretty easily
One thing that's certain: it's a lot better to work at restoring your
relationship so it's exciting, powerful, passionate and committed rather
than abandon it and go off and start again.
That often produces only
heartbreak and misery for all.
We believe your best option is to discover how to make love to the same
person for the rest of your life in a monogamous relationship that excites
you, turns you on, fires you up with passion, and generally makes your
And this is the website that can show you exactly how to do all those
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